Also, it's the engine that absorbs most of the braking energy, not the
transmission itself. I suppose the torque converter converts some
kinetic energy to heat as well, but it's not a wear item. The heat
ends up in the radiator via the transmission cooler.
Engine braking puts no more wear on the trans than does normal
driving.
I'm glad that you agree with me. Downshifting for a red light which I
think is what the OP alluded to is just ludicrous. Very true what you
say about putting no more wear than normal driving. Every time that
bands and clutches engage and disengage there is wear. If you were to
downshift at every light, you would be creating twice the wear. Don't
delude yourself that the wimpy little coil in the radiator is doing a
whole hell of a lot, it's a marginal stopgap at best even when
everything is new.
I just gotta tell you something funny. Last Summer, one of the hottest
Summers on record here In Las Vegas, I went into the dealer for an oil
change. As I was waiting, I walked around the entire building to smoke a
cigarette (Don't go there). At the far rear of the lot, I saw this guy
with an electric "pusher" that he was using to push an XC wagon into the
very rear next to a wall. I walked over because I was interested in this
machine and when I asked what was wrong with the car that they were
pushing he just said "transmission...these hot days really bring them
in". When I asked how many of the cars in the lot were in for
transmission repairs, he pointed to the last two rows. TWENTY-THREE of
them, all under five years old. He then added, "Oh, we have fifteen more
in the storage lot".
No wonder that they now have Volvos go into neutral when you come to a
stop. Too bad it doesn't do it when the A.C. is on. With the kind of
driving that I do, I think that I'll have the trans flushed on a yearly
basis. I can just imagine a transmission failure on a 123 degree day
with clients in the car.